JANUARY 3RD, 2021 // MATTHEW 15:1-20 // PASTOR KAYLA HURST

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“Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then out of the body? But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what defile a person; but eating with unwashed hands does not defile them.”

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You're Not The Boss Of Me - Pastor Kayla Hurst

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Well, good morning and Happy New Year. My name is Kayla, and I'm one of the pastor's here at Northgate, where we envision transforming our homes, community and world by pursuing God building community and unleashing compassion, I am so glad that you chose to start this new year off with us today. We are actually starting this new year with a brand new series called You're not the boss of me. And it's all about learning how to say no to the emotions that compete for control. Listen, we all like to have control over our lives, we don't like anybody to tell us what to do. And all of that starts pretty early. I remember when one of my kids was early. In fact, all three of my kids had their moment of glory, whenever I had just gotten after them for something. And they look at me with all of the strength of their three year old self, and they look me square in the eyes and say, You're not the boss of me. Of course, that was the last time they ever said that to me. But it always happens once. The scary part is though, we actually never grow out of that.

We all still want to be the boss of our lives, we want to call our own shots. And there's something down deep inside of us that truly believes that if we were able to call all of our own shots, we would always 100% of the time, call the right shots. In fact, I think that's what amazes us and surprises us about when we hear stories about the people who have somehow figured out how to have control over their lives. They either make enough money or they have enough power or whatever they've done to be able to call most of the shots in their lives. And then they throw it all away with one really stupid decision. We look at them and we cross our arms and go, What is wrong with you? I would never do that. No, no, if I had full control over my life 100% for sure, I would do the right thing. Every single time I can't even wipe the smile off my face, because that's how funny it is. But friends, I actually do believe that we could be those people, we could be sure that we call all of the right shots in our lives. But to do that, we're gonna have to get control of some of the bad advice that we're taking. And the source of that advice might surprise you a little bit. You see it is the one source that is most filtered. For us. It's the one source that will always be just a little bit sketchy.

And that source is you. It's It's me, it's inside of us. Honestly, friends, the person that often gives us the worst advice is ourselves. We don't get in trouble for not taking advice. We most often get in trouble because we take our own bad advice. Now hear me though, not everything you think is bad, you're not stupid, I don't always have may give myself bad advice. But the advice I'm talking about is the one that gets filtered and distorted by our emotions. It's the one that we allow our emotions to get in the driver's seat and give us advice that leads us off into a reality that is not the one we had planned for ourselves. That's why we have to learn how to say no to the emotions that are trying to get in the driver's seat that are trying to take the control of our lives. You might think it's your boss or your parents or your spouse or maybe even your kids, you're the government or your circumstances that are that are taking the control of your lives. But most often, for most of us, the culprit of control is our emotions. And over the next few weeks, we're going to talk about some of the emotions specifically that sneak into the driver's seat for us. Things like guilt, insecurity, envy. fear and anger. And hopefully together over these next several weeks, we're going to learn and be able to recognize these voices that are lurking down deep inside us. And we're going to learn to control them and say, No, we're going to take back control of our lives. But let's get some truths about emotions out of the way, I want to set the stage for you with some truths about emotions. And some of these may be common sense to you. And some of them you may know in your head, but the way that we live tells a different story. So here's, here's a couple truth let me just need to set it out here. First one is this, your emotions are not you.

Your emotions, aren't you, you are not your emotions, you have emotions, you feel emotions, but they are not you. You are not anger, you might be angry, sometimes you are not fear itself, you just may feel afraid. Friends, you have to know this, because you can't take control of something unless we can name it. And we name it something other than ourselves, your emotions are not you. The second truth we need to know is that emotions aren't bad. Your emotions aren't inherently bad, none of them are bad within themselves, even the negative ones. So think of it this way. It's kind of like money. Money in and of itself is not bad. It's not evil. But the way we think about it, the way we allow it to control us the way that we use, it can be bad. Your emotions are the same way. Even sadness or anger. In fact, it reminds me of that movie a few years ago, inside out the Pixar movie, I love that movie. And it, it tells the story of this little girl, but it tells it through the perspective of her feelings. And you, you get to see in her head these, these feelings of joy and sadness, and anger and disgust. And the whole story is that joy is the one that everyone thinks should be in control all the time. And then there's this, like Debbie Downer character, sadness, she's blue, and she's always sad. She talks like this all the time.

And joy is constantly trying to shove her out of the way and not let her have control of anything. But spoiler alert at the end of the story, we realize that sadness has a purpose. And there is a reason why we need to be able to experience sadness, there's a reason why we need to be able to experience even the negative emotions, friends, even God has emotions. We see throughout Scripture times where we see that he loves he rejoices we even see where he laughs, where he weeps, where he's sad, and even where he gets angry. See, our ability to feel came from God, our emotions were a gift from God. It's part of how God made us in His image, how it says it in Genesis when he says, Let's make man in our own image, I believe that our emotions, our ability to feel is part of that image of God that we carry with us. And he gave us emotions to tell us important things. our emotions often turn our gaze and our mind toward something that's off or something that's good. He gave them to us so he could experience life more fully, more beautifully, because of our emotions.

In fact, he actually wants us to have an emotional relationship with him now, not just emotional relationship. But that is part of how we experience God is through our feelings through our emotions. In fact, when Jesus was asked about the greatest commandment, he mentions emotions, he says, Love the Lord your God with all your heart, your soul, your mind and strength, your heart, he's talking about your emotions. He wants us to love him with all of who we are with all of what we have, which includes our emotions. The Book of Psalms is full of emotions. In fact, it's one of my favorite parts of Scripture to go to when I'm feeling happy or sad or angry or disappointed all of it because it's all in there. So much of it was written by King David, a man that was described as a man after God's own heart. God gave us our emotions. They're not bad. Motions aren't bad. They just shouldn't be in charge. They aren't bad. They just shouldn't be in charge. Why is that? Well Frankly, they can be very unreliable emotions can be super unreliable. And I'm guessing that even the most stoic person watching right now can agree that our emotions how we feel, can be a little sketchy at times. In fact, there's something that I've said to my kids over and over and over. And frankly, I have to say it to myself a lot, too. And it's this, just because your feelings are real, doesn't make them true or actionable. Let me say that, again, just because your feelings are real, doesn't make them true, or actionable. Let's unpack that for just a second. See, no one can argue that you don't feel a certain way. No one can argue that you don't feel sad or happy or excited or angry. Those feelings in you are real, it is true, you feel them. But it doesn't make them true. It doesn't make what you're feeling the truth about reality. And it certainly does not make them actionable. See, there's something about our emotions that can be very unreliable. And and they can be used to manipulate us think about advertisements. The whole advertisement industry is made to make us feel a certain way. So that will do a certain thing that is in it works.

Friends, it works millions upon millions, maybe even billions of dollars are spent every year. Because it works. When people mess with your emotions, it often makes us want to do certain things. But just because our feelings are real, it doesn't make them true or actionable. They can be used to manipulate us by people, our friends, maybe some of your family even I remember one of my kids was exceptionally young, when they realized that they could, with a well timed Hug And A cute head tilt get themselves a little less trouble. Friends, that happens and it happens early for some. But our motions can be manipulated. In that way. Maybe Most of all, our emotions can be manipulated by the enemy, the Devil Satan himself, one of his best tricks is to use our emotions to lie to us. When you're sad, the thought comes into your mind that all is lost, everything is dark, it's all horrible. When you're afraid, there's this, this feeling that comes that maybe you just need to hide, stay inside withdraw the friends just to because those feelings are real, it doesn't make them true, or actionable. Now most of us has have figured out how to monitor our behavior well enough to I don't know in most cases, get a job, keep a job, stay married, have friends, not have road rage, that's too bad that people can see it and maybe even not punch the guy behind in front of you in the Express checkout lane that has way more than 10 items. we've all learned how to monitor our behavior. But Jesus invites us to take that monitoring a step further. Because he knows it isn't enough to just monitor our behavior. And that's where we go to our text. Today we're going to be in the book of Matthew, which is in the second half of the Bible. It's actually the first book in The New Testaments, one of the four gospels, which are the stories of Jesus life, we're actually going to be in chapter 15. Today. And in this part of the story, Jesus has been traveling and he's been teaching and preaching. He's been healing people. And at this point, he's started to draw quite a crowd. Lots of people want to hear what he has to say, people are even bringing their friends to him to be healed. But he's also already caught the attention of the Pharisees, the teachers of the law. Now, these were the religious leaders of the day, and they were not Jesus biggest fan. In fact, they took issue with a lot of what Jesus was teaching, and certainly how he and his disciples chose to live, who they chose to be with and, and how they acted. And that's where we start here in chapter 15.

We're going to start in verse one says this, then some Pharisees and teachers of the law came to Jesus from Jerusalem and asked, Why do your disciples break the tradition of the elders? They don't wash their hands before they eat Okay, I have to say, I'm with the Pharisees on this one, especially in a year, where we have 20 seconds at a time, spent days, maybe weeks, maybe even months, washing our hands with surgeons precision. I'm wondering to why the disciples were not washing their hands before they ate, that's gross. We don't need a tradition of the elders to tell us to wash our hands before we eat. That's just good hygiene. But here's some context. Because this wasn't actually about hygiene. This was about the rule, the tradition of the elders, this Oral Torah is what it was often called. And this was a set of rules that was only known by a few leaders. And it was made up by those leaders to help people not accidentally do something that would defile them that would take them away from God, that they wouldn't accidentally eat something that they weren't supposed to eat. Because in that day, there were laws, God's laws that said, what people should eat and what they should not eat. That's what kept them clean or unclean. That was all part of the Old Covenant, the old rules. But Jesus knew that the Pharisees were talking about something that they didn't even completely understand themselves, and he wasn't having any of it.

You see these laws, this tradition it made God seems small and and petty, like you could accidentally mess up your relationship with God by just not doing the right things before you eat, or before you came to the temple. And Jesus wasn't buying it. In verse three, he see his response, Jesus replied, and why do you break the command of God for the sake of your tradition? Then he gives them an example of how they use the same tradition that they're talking about here to break one of God's laws, specifically, the one that says, to Honor your father and mother, verse seven, you hypocrites. Jesus said, Isaiah was right when he prophesied about you. And then he quotes Isaiah, these people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. They worship me in vain. Their teachings are merely human rules. And this passage, Isaiah was saying, and Jesus is making the same point, if you're just following the rules to follow the rules, then your worship isn't even really worship. It's just this weird thing that you're trying to do. You can't just say all the right things, and expect your heart to follow you can say and do everything exactly correct. But your heart can still be a mess. You see, with these rules, the Pharisees had turned religion into a game, that only they could win by following the rules that they made up. And that's not what our relationship with Jesus, that's not what this religion that's not what our relationship with God was about at all. And Jesus is calling them out on it. Well, at this point, a crowd had gathered. So Jesus addresses them verse 10, he says, listen and understand. What goes into someone's mouth does not defile that me saying God is not petty, he's not setting you up for entrapment. You don't get in trouble for an accidental breach of etiquette, but what comes out of their mouth, that is what defiles them.

And then Jesus drops the mic and walks off. Now, I have to tell you that when I picture this scene, I like to picture Jesus disciples standing around him, you know, like you see in the movies, it's always like the leader is standing. And he's, and he's having his moment where he tells off the bully. And all of these other guys are like, yeah, yeah, burn, burn. And then the like, as they're taunting this bully, they realize their leader has walked off, so they have to scurry. Well, that's what I see here. Because the disciples, they go after Jesus, and they catch up to him Finally, and when they do, they're like, you totally told them off, man. I'm paraphrasing, but Jesus does say in verse 14, leave them he's talking about the Pharisees. They are blind guides. And if the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit. You see, the problem is, is that the disciples they had missed the point. they've missed the point entirely, and they were starting to realize it. To their credit, they were starting to realize that maybe they hadn't quite understood what had just happened. So one of them got up enough guts and asked Jesus to explain it to them. Now, Jesus seems a little bit surprised and maybe even frustrated that they don't get it yet. We read it in verse 17. He says, Don't you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach, and then out of the body. I can imagine the disciples being like, Huh, we understand the basics of the digestive system. We eat something and then a couple hours later, we have to visit the little disciples room. We got it, Jesus, we got it. But see, there's a value system that Jesus is explaining here. And this is the part where we see Jesus inviting us into more than just monitoring our behavior. Verse 18, Jesus says, but the things that come out of a person's mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. You see that word, defile, it had religious implications. If something defiles you It puts you at odds with a God. He's saying, the rules that you keep, they're not as important to God, but the things that come out of you, what you do what you say how you act. That's a different story. And he says it specifically verse 19, four out of the heart Come evil thoughts of murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony and slander. See, those are all things that would hurt other people. And Jesus is saying that that's a whole different story. hurting people that God loves, which is all of us, that will certainly put you at odds with God.

Now, listen, that's a good point, for sure. But that's not actually where I want to land. You see, Jesus is saying something in here that is super convicting. And it is the key, it is the key to help us start saying no, to the emotions that are trying to get control of our lives. Look at verse 18, again, but the things that come out of a person's mouth come from the heart, friends, it starts in you. It starts in me. The things that come out of a person's mouth come from the heart, and these are the things that defile them. The source of the offensive words, you say, the bad actions, you take the bad attitude, you have that stuff, that mess, it starts within you. Now, you may want to push back and say, Nope, not me. Sometimes I say things I don't mean. And I will say to you, because I have to say to myself, sure. Sometimes you don't mean to say things out loud. Check your heart, friends. It all starts in there. And your heart is showing. Go back to verse 19. Again, four out of the heart, come evil thoughts of murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimonies, slander, and in Mark's account of this story, he adds greed, malice, deceit, envy, arrogance, and folly. And folly just means bad judgment.

See, this stuff comes out of our hearts. That's why we have to do more than just monitor our behavior. We have to monitor what's inside of us, we have to take stock and take control of what is within us, because what's inside of us will eventually find its way out every time what's inside us will eventually find its way out. And just like doing the right thing isn't enough to build a relationship with God. Just like Jesus was telling the Pharisees and his disciples that following a set of rules or religious rituals was not going to get them into heaven or keep them in good standing with God. It's not enough just to monitor your behavior and what you do. It's not just enough to keep not doing the wrong things. We have to monitor and control what's inside us. So it doesn't come out of us. And that's what we're going to do. over these next few weeks. We're going to practice monitoring and naming what is inside of us. So it doesn't come out of us. We're going to practice monitoring what's inside of us and naming it and then taking it under control. We're gonna personalize these things. We're gonna find out what it is. That's giving us That bad advice? We're gonna call it out and say, You're not the boss of me anymore. Anger, You're not the boss of me. Fear. You're not the boss of me and V. any of it. You're not the boss of me any more. friends think about it. How different would your life and relationships be right now, if you had been taught to monitor what's going on inside of you to control what it is? that's giving you that bad advice? What would you be doing? Where would you be? If you hadn't allowed fear or guilt to be the boss of you? What would your father have been if he had not allowed anger and greed to be the boss of him? What would it have been like? If your mother had not allowed envy to be the boss of her? What would it be like if we taught our children, that their emotions are not the boss of them? You see, if we allow our emotions to be the boss, we will be kept from living in the abundance of life because we're too afraid to take risks. We will be kept from experiencing forgiveness because we're too prideful to say I'm sorry. It'll keep us from unleashing compassion because we're letting greed be the boss instead of generosity. our emotions will every time always say hey, look at me, do what I say feed me feed this feeling that's inside of me do something about me, whether it's fear, anger, insecurity, guilt, envy, any of it. They're all screaming for us to put ourselves first, and others last. We've got to learn to call them out. And to let them know that they don't get to be the boss anymore. See, we already have a boss of us. And if you are a follower of Jesus, you have a better boss than anger, lust, greed, fear, or envy. And here's his invitation and Matthew 11. Come to me all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me. for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. Jesus is saying, follow me. Learn from me.

Let me show you that I am a better boss. I don't need anything from you. You don't have to feed me. But I have something for you. And it's a good life. A life of rest and a licensed life of security in the knowledge that I am in control. Where you pray for my friends. God you are so good. Thank you for loving us. Thank you for being a God who is in control and who is good. God would you teach us Holy Spirit? Would you convict us and show us teach us how to name the things that are inside of us that are giving us bad advice stop us before we allow these emotions to take control. God we need you every hour. We love you. We trust you and your precious son's name Jesus we pray. Amen.

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JANUARY 10TH, 2021 // JAMES 3:13-14, 16 // PASTOR LARRY DAVIS

Anger

When we feel anger, our emotions tell us it’s 100 percent someone else’s fault. But James, the brother of Jesus, has something different to say. When we take a step back and acknowledge what the problem really is, anger will no longer be the boss of us.

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Hey friends, my name is Larry, I'm one of the pastor's here, I'm so glad to be with you and figured, let's just hop right in and talk about it. Been there this week? Yeah, we all kind of have sat here this week and felt like it's not something that we can just glide by quickly, or even necessarily easily. There's a couple things that we can say about this. And I think we should say about this one, I'm going to say right now, I don't typically engage in conversations through any type of political lens, I am very much if you talk to me, Lion and lamb. I don't do the donkey elephant conversation. I'm 100%. Jesus. That's why I love being a part of a non denominational church where we can major on the major, which is other people in Jesus. But this last week, we all experienced something that was more difficult than I think any of us had expected. It was It shocked me like it did many, many other people. And when I want to talk about this, I'm going to talk about a little bit real quickly, just some things that Jesus said, first of all, just talk about some of the emblems we saw or the signs that we saw take place. I want to tell you right now, the cross was never meant to weaponize anything, it was always to point us towards reconciliation, which is exactly what Jesus used it for. Now, what about Jesus? Jesus said, Blessed are the peacemakers, in a famous sermon that he gave for they will be called children of God. And what that saying to us is that we as children of God, we, as followers of Jesus, followers of Jesus, that means we have been released, released out to be agents of reconciliation, agents of love agents, of grace, agents, of injustice, agents of mercy, peace makers, that's what we've been released, to do, as children of God. So may we church, understand that that's who Jesus is. That's what he's about. And also that this is really like, digging up some things that are deep with inside of us, that are inside of us that are being released. And that's what a lot of this message series that we're talking about right now is actually talking about, which is our motions, I know that we've seen things like that, or we're experiencing things on a constant basis right now, that in rageous, that give us rage, and all sudden, it's like building up and needs to be released or anger. And we're so angry. And for some of you, you may have a specific word that you use, and you use this word because anger and rage sounds so intense. You use this word, frustration, right here.

I know that I've been in this place before where I'm like, Well, I'm not I'm not angry. I'm I'm frustrated, right? But in reality, frustration is anger. frustration is anger. If you talk to any type of good counselor, and you're having a conversation with them, and you're just like, I'm not angry, I'm not full of anger, I'm just frustrated. They will look at you and say, will you tell me the difference between anger and frustration? And so while you think about that for just a minute right now, and what the difference is between anger and frustration, I want to hop back in and talk about where we've been and where we're going. So we're doing this series called You're not the boss of me, right here. There you go. You're not the boss of me. And I know some of you have already asked like, Hey, is this the new North Gate t shirt? That's not the case. I know some of you made this crazy suggestion. That's not who we are. But we're talking about how to say no to the motions that compete for our Control. How do we how do we say no that the Jesus says that the stuff that we're dealing with the stuff that comes out of us actually has the potential to ruin us. And the things that come out of us. They actually come from our hearts and pastor Kayla kind of opened this discussion up last week. It says in Matthew, but the things that come out of a person's mouth come from the heart, and these, they defile him. They defile them. For out of the heart evil thoughts of murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slanders this, this series that we're talking about it, we get to learn how to monitor the things, the emotions of our heart. And what we know is that when our emotions take control, things get out of control. When our emotions start to kick take control of us things can get out of control. And it can either get in the way of the things that we're experiencing, or we can get overwhelmed by things like guilt and envy and insecurity and anger and fear.

I know that I got this little thing of jar of Skittles up here, and my daughter helped me fill this up. Can't wait until I'm done talking about it, so she can house them. But skills is what's in this jar. Now, when things shake us or rattle us, what do you think is going to come out of this jar, the Skittles, they're going to go everywhere because it's what's inside, right? And that's what happens to us is if we don't understand what's inside, or we are working on what's inside of us, when we get shaken. When things go crazy and stirred up and tossed about the things that are inside of us will begin to come out and today we're going to be talking about anger. Anger. Today we're talking about anger, because nobody wants anger to be the boss of them. Nobody wants anger to be the boss of you. The people closest to you, your your friends, your family, your your siblings. No one wants to be seen that anger is the boss of you. I know that. For for me. I don't like anger to be the boss of me. And for a lot of people. They can see anger as this extroverted anger. It's this loud anger. It's the yelling, it's the screaming. It's the slamming of stuff, right? It's really big. I know. For me, personally, I have, I have kind of a problem with yelling, meaning I don't do yelling. I don't like yelling. I don't like people yelling around me. Me personally, I feel like it's ridiculous. Because we could have the same kind of conversation, I can understand you much more clearly. If you can talk in like an adult tone of voice. And we can have a conversation. But I'll tell you the rare occasion, which you can't even count on one hand that I have actually yelled because I'm angry is is such a difference in my household. It was even just I think a couple weeks ago, my my kids were yelling, and I was like don't do yelling. So I yelled, because they were just going at it and like everyone is it's a big giant tinderbox for things going on. And so I yelled at him Stop yelling. This is ridiculous.

You guys are so angry at each other. And I remember they started crying. And it was like, why are you crying? And they're crying? Because they made me yell at them. And I don't yell, right. It's that thing that says like, Whoa, this is intense, and it actually causes other people to have a reaction that is uncomfortable, that's not healthy. Now, you may never raise your voice, you may never lose your temper in an outward manner. And I'll tell you this is actually a little bit about how I deal with anger. You still are scary. You still are scary. Your moodiness your silence, their controlling, right? The way that you acted may not be this extroverted anger but it's his quiet introverted where your mood shifts. The way that you use silence to control others. You shut people down. And anger is just a bad boss. Unless, of course, it's Crusader anger. Less, of course, is Crusader anger. This is the type of anger that stirs people up that deals with injustice that fights against evil and it's led to great things like civil rights movement and women's suffrage and child labor law. Crusader anger stands in contrast to the anger that we're talking about because Crusader anger reflects and is concerned about what others aren't getting that they deserve. You see in some of this is last year and some of you are already maybe upset or confused. Why aren't you talking in depth about things that have happened in the past, the Crusader anger, movement in moments of injustice of what others aren't getting? They deserve. Now, what just got thrown up here? This is talking about the different type of anger, our anger, oftentimes our rage and our frustration is sourced and actually what, I'm not getting that I'm sure I deserve. That I'm not not they're not, but I'm not getting what I want, and I'm sure that I deserve it. Now we want to look at this through the lens of Scripture. And a really great person to learn from is a guy named James who's actually the brother of Jesus, he decided to call Jesus his Lord, he ended up being later on when Jesus was gone into being the first pastor, if you will, of church in Jerusalem, right there. And he actually had a nickname, his nickname was James, the just, he cared for others as well. And he had some things that I think are really important for us to learn when it comes to talking about our anger. He starts with this question, he says, Who is wise and understands among you? Let's just pause and stop right there, who is wise and understands, among you, a wise person, they have insight, they have understanding, they know how the world works, they know that life's connected, and wise people have a broader and bigger perspective. And so he says, Well, let them show it by your good life, by deeds done in humility, right, because someone who has wisdom is humble. And that's what it comes from. They have an understanding wisdom leads to humility, and arrogance doesn't make any sense.

It's irrationally but humility is powerful, and not natural. It continues on this isn't verse 14, but if you harbor This is to dock or to park, something, like bitterness in your heart, but if you harbor if you allow it to dock inside of you bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, if you allowed it to just sit there, don't boast about it, and deny the truth that don't let it just stuff just live there and not address and act like everything's okay. James is saying, Don't let it get stuck. Don't let it just sit there and be satisfied with Well, I just have an anger problem. That's just who I am. Don't pretend to be fine. Because see, friends God has called us to be and to do something better. Says for, for where you have envy and selfish ambition. For where you have this envy of fairness and selfish ambition. There is where you'll find something there fat, you'll find large this disorder and every evil practice. When arrogance gets lodged in our heart, there's going to be this disorder of every evil practice of every evil practice and what's on the inside, that's get shaken out of you. It's coming from you. And it's going to go and it's going to hit everyone around you. And James is telling us how to keep anger from lodging and staying in our hearts and becoming the boss of us. And so he pauses and then he asked this question, because he needs to reiterate, because he knows that he's got to ask lots of questions to help us understand what we really need to understand. It says this, what causes fights? What causes fights? Where's the hostility and conflict come from you? And what causes fights and quarrels among you? Our responses? No, James, it's not what? It's who. It's not what causes fights. It's who it's my mom. It's my dad. It's my ninth grader, or my daughter, or it's those people or that thing. It's not what it's who they are and what they represent or what they did, right. It's, it's who that person is. And so he asked, he says, What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? Not out here, but that battle with inside of you know, they don't come from me at all? This is what we typically say. I think the reason that I think I struggle with this is because of their inability to understand or see things my way that I'm the one who's right. My way is the right way. Right? Do you understand and see how that works. And James is saying, as long as you think as long as you think that the source of your anger is out there, you're never going to be able to deal with it in here. This is a life changing insight in any relationship. If both parties can recognize this and embrace, then anger will never be the boss of you. Let's read this verse again. What causes fights and quarrels among you?

They right here, don't they come from your desire That battle within you. The answer to this question is, yes. Yes, they do. Yes, they do every single time. We fight, and we quarrel because we're not getting something that we want, or we desire. But I earned it. But I earned it. We say, You're right. You earned it. But you're not getting what you want. But but but they promised, they promised, right? You're not getting what you're promised. So you're not getting what you want. But But what they did isn't fair, what they did isn't fair. Right. You wanted to be treated fairly, and you weren't, and you're not getting what you want. If you can pause in the moment, when anger is rising, in acknowledge and recognize that part of the problem is mine. It can be liberating. James continues on and says you desire, but you do not have. So you what you kill.

His point is this, if if we don't recognize the source of our anger is in here and not out there. We have the potential to take things to an unhealthy and even destructive level, what's behind murder, it's somebody wanted something or somebody was so frustrated that they didn't get what they thought they deserved, or they needed to fix it because it was for them. That it comes to these unhealthy levels. It came to us and says you're envious. You're envious and cannot obtain. So you fight. And you. Coral, the source of your anger isn't oftentimes out here, it's in here, we aren't getting our way we aren't getting something that we want. I want what I deserved, because I was promised it should you be upset sometimes. When you own though your slice of the pie and the argument when it comes to your anger, it can be a show stopper. You can practice saying this is gonna sound a little obnoxious to you. Maybe this week or next time you find yourself, you know, in a quarrel or in kind of a back and forth or angry or frustrated. You can say these things when you haven't a discussion. You know what, you know what part of the problem is? Don't you? Do you know, a part of the problem is, don't you? And then you get to respond with this. I'm not getting what I want. That's actually really liberating. It is actually a show stopper, if you're in the midst of something, and you just get to say, you know what part of the problem is, don't you right now. And then they get to go, What? I'm not getting what I want, and you get to go? Yes. Right. How does that feel? It changes things I this last week, I was like talking to Michelle, and it's her last week of break. And I was like, oh, let's be spontaneous. And I really wanted to go up for a day and I wanted to go up and play in the snow. I wanted to just do a drive up and drive down, didn't have all of everything worked out. And she's a major planner. And I'm like spontaneous, let's go and, and she just didn't want to. And so me, I got really frustrated. And I got poudi. And it came down to later my oldest daughter was sitting down. And she was like what's going on with you too. And I was like, Well, you could tell her, you could tell her I'm all frustrated right now. And so she was like, Oh, he wanted to do something and I don't want to do it. And then I'm saying I'm gonna do it. You know, you do that back and forth. And I looked at her and I said, I'm pouting because I didn't get what I want. Now that made whatever you would see as conflict, much easier to deal with because I recognized I had a part in it. And she recognized that she had a part in it. And it can change things in the middle of that. So practice saying this at home right now you can say with me. You know what part of the problem is, don't you? I'm not getting what I want. You can leave that stuff up there. I'm not getting what I want. So say that to someone else sits next to you right now. You know what part of the problem is right now? I'm not getting what I want.

So here's the question that I want you to leave with as kind of close. Today's conversation is what is your relationship with anger? What is your relation? ship with anger? Do you let it boss you around? are you right now? Letting it boss you around and control you? Does it get control of your mouth? Does it get control of your mood? Are you ready to put an end to that you'll have to humble yourself moment To face that fact, and part of the problem is, we get in our own way. But when we feel it rising up, when we feel anger rising up, we need to say, anger, You're not the boss of me, I'm on to you. You want me to think that it's all them? It's not part of the problem is me that I'm not getting what I want. And right now anger, I'm gonna own my part of the pie. Besides, if you're a Jesus follower, you already have a boss of you. He's a boss, that didn't always get what he wanted either. But you have a boss that said no, to what he wanted, so he could give us what we needed. The most. Paul says this about Jesus and Philippians says, who this is Jesus who, being in very nature, God, did not consider equality with God, something to be used to his own advantage, that Jesus being in the very nature of God didn't consider equality with God, something to be used in, use it to go in and say, I'll take the best seat in the house, you can make them move, I get this, I've earned this, I'm God, I can do what I want. didn't use that to his own advantage. But rather, he made himself nothing.

He made himself nothing. By taking the very nature of a servant.

Then Paul spells it out for us followers of Jesus, about how to live in this principle. And he says, in your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus. It's okay for us to not get everything that we want, or the things that we think we deserve. It's better not to get everything that we want or deserve. If that's what it takes to keep anger from being the boss of you. One reason, one reason that following Jesus will make your life better and make you better at life is because it nudges. It nudges us away from self centeredness and arrogance, and towards others, centeredness, and humility. And that results in a bigger and better life. One with which anger is no longer the boss of you. So this week, I would ask you to take out your phones actually right now. And you can take a quick picture of this. Here's some questions or conversations to have in your house right now or throughout this week, and maybe you can just take take a minute and describe your relationship with anger with someone around you. And do you shout out or do you shut down? what or who are your triggers? And are you ready to acknowledge that part of the problem is you're not getting what you want? Will you pray with me? God we give you our emotions, as only you can carry our emotions and and handle all of it. So Father, would you just would you just help us see how we can be a peace maker right now? How we can just show that we're a child of you that we can be an agent of reconciliation, of grace of mercy, of comfort, and goodness, we love you and your name we pray. Amen.

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JANUARY 17TH, 2021 // PHILIPPIANS 2:5-8 // PASTOR LARRY DAVIS

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In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross!

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Good morning friends. My name is Larry, I'm one of the pastor's here, I'm just really thankful to be with you, wherever you're at. And I want to say that, just like many of you, I just want you to hear from me that I wish we could be with one another in community right now. And I'm thankful that you're doing your part, as hard as it is right now to love others that this is what love requires of us to do in the season. And I've like many of you have had a few instances where I've ran into some of you in the community in the grocery store, or, you know, out getting what we need to get. And it fills me up to see you face to face. And I know that so many of you and so many of us are missing the communal experience. And so that's why things like routed or even the service is really important. And that's why like, I've watched Actually, this morning, those of you participating in the chat room, are in community praying for one another. I mean, it was really beautiful to watch. You and us carry one another right now, in whatever is going on. You know, I saw something from an uncle Don. And I've seen people who are looking for rest. And that's just overwhelmed. And this community, you can still be in it, even though it doesn't feel the same. Because you don't get to see you don't get to touch your friends, your fellow brothers and sisters. But there are ways we can do it. So thank you for stepping into that. And if you're missing that step into that we are full of emotions. Right now we've been doing a series called You're not the boss of me, which is this idea of we need to say no to emotions that can take control of this. And I know many of us, myself included are a ball of emotions. And like we're finding ourselves being emotional or getting there so much faster than we found it before. There's literally nowhere to hide right now is nowhere to run there. It doesn't feel like there's places of rest. And so our emotions have us they have our kids, if you have kids, they have your kids too. Everyone is processing and trying to process and deal with all of the emotions involved. And so we need to have a conversation about it. There's a lot of really beautiful things that the Bible has to say about it. We've talked about that the emotions, the things that are in us, that are part of our heart, when we get rattled when we get shaken up, when there's nowhere to run, those things come out of us. And it can be something that it says in Matthew will defile you. Or it can be something that is rich, and it's beautiful. And it's kind and it's gentle, and it's loving. And so we've been having a conversation about our emotions, and what to do with those and how to deal with those and that we have a better boss, that we have a better boss and we need to not let our emotions be the boss of us in last week, we had a conversation about anger, and our frustration and how anger doesn't need to be the boss of us. And quite frankly, I don't think any of you or your family or friends want anger to be the boss of you as well. And so today, we're going to take another step and talking about emotions this, this is the one thing that keeps you from celebrating other people's success. It keeps you from initiating an apology when you know that you were wrong. It keeps you from initiating an apology when you know you're only 5% wrong and the other person was 95%. Wrong. It's a thing that keeps you arguing your point after you realize that you don't even really have a good point. It keeps you from admitting that you have lost. It keeps you from admitting weakness keeps you from admitting that you need help. It keeps you from admitting that you don't know what you're doing even though everyone else knows that you don't know You're doing AI keeps you from being honest with yourself, keeps you from being honest with others. It keeps you from learning new things, because you want the people around you to think that you know, every thing is what causes you to feel good when others fail. It's what causes you to power up, when you should be opening up. It's what causes you to cheat before you allow yourself to lose, then it's what causes you to lie about your past. And it's what causes you to have to have the final word. And finally, it's what causes you to buy things to impress people who aren't even really paying attention.

So today, what are we talking about? Pride, pride. Like how the eyes in there. This is an emotion that wells up in us, it can take over us. I love how CS Lewis puts it in his book Mere Christianity says, um, chastity, anger, greed, drunkenness are mere fleabites. In comparison, pride leads to every other vice. So let's talk about pride for just a minute. And for those of you who right now are feeling pride, well up in here, like I don't need to have a conversation about pride right now. That's kind of who I want to talk to. So this isn't like a bump elbows with someone who's around you, this isn't already like, Whoa, man, this is gonna be one of those that I need to like text or like, silently descend to somebody else. I want you to listen to this for you. And for me. And as we talk about this emotion that can explode out of us and the damage that has si pride, it actually diminishes you. it diminishes you. What does it do? What does it diminish in you, it diminishes our capacity, your capacity, to do three things, to admit, to apologize. And to acknowledge pride diminishes your capacity to admit things like I'm wrong, or like I need help it, it diminishes your capacity to apologize for something or the way that you came across or how you just exploded, because there's actually another issue that's going on right now. And you're not dealing with that. And so the safest people get the stabbing, or this pride thing, because I can't talk about it. Because I don't want you to know that I'm weak. It also diminishes your capacity to acknowledge things about you to acknowledge things about other people, and those who around you, it diminishes your capacity to say what needs to be said. There are things that we need to say that we are not willing or unable to say because of our pride, or because of these emotional issues that we're just not dealing with. And so we let that take over. And we can't say things like, I love you, to our kid. Because it's just not what we did. That's not what I did when we grew up. You know, my, my dad wasn't like that, or my mom wasn't like that. And, and that's just not how we talk. Right? And that we know, you know, like one of those. But it diminishes your capacity to say what needs to be said to say like, I believe in you, I support you, I care for you, like you can do it. This encouragement that's so desperately needed for from other people to be able to stop and actually say those things. it diminishes our capacity to hear what needs to be heard. When when our pride is taking over when we're rattled and we're shaking up, we can't hear. We're listening. And we're just listening to reply, not listening to hear what we need to hear and learn what we need to learn. Right? There's some of you maybe who are sitting here right now. And you're kind of in a battle right now with your conscience because you're like, Yeah, I don't actually want to hear this because I've got control over my emotions. Some of you need to hear this. It also diminishes our capacity to give what needs to be given, to give support, to give care, to give courage to someone else. What whatever you want in life, I want to tell you this, whatever you want in life, the way that God created it, and the way that God creates us, is that whatever you want in life, you need to give and when you're full of pride. You can't give what needs to be given.

I'll give you this example I this is a surefire thing I'm telling you right now, you can test me on this. If you want joy. You need to go find somebody who's discouraged and give them joy. And that will bring joy to you. Because you give it if you want love, you need to go find someone and you need to love them, meet them where they're at and give your love to them and you will have a whole lot of people who love you well and deeply back if If you want kindness, what do you do? You give kindness to someone else, you give kindness to others? And what are you getting returned? kindness, you see how this works when we're able to push down our emotions or our pride in situations and we're able to give, then that's when we get the blessings, and receive just the goodness and faithfulness of Jesus by living that stuff out. But when we have pride, and we let that be the boss of us, we're not able to give what we need to give, see pride, it crowds other people out, it pushes everyone else out, when you're so full of you, there's no room for anyone else. When you are so full of you, there is no room for anyone else. It's just you. In this little box, it crowds out God too. It's not just the people around you. But pride crowds out God says this, the psalmist says, In Psalms 10 four says in his pride, the wicked man does not seek Him. In all his thoughts, there is no room for God. So we have this idea that some of us, you know, deal with that, you know, to be a follower of Jesus, you're not that smart. Or you're just in a lot of need, like, you're really broken, you're really messed up, like you can't handle your own business, you can't care for yourself. And I'm going to tell you, that for those of you who struggle with that, I want to tell you right now that it's actually your pride, your pride, not your intellect that is keeping you from God. It's your pride, that saying, I got this, I can do this, I can do better this. It's not your intellect of who God is. And, you know, what, what is the Bible made up of? And did this story even happen? Is this hyperbole or, you know, or looking at someone else? and saying, yeah, that that's that that represents who, who God is, then I'm out of it, right? But often, it's our pride that actually does the most damage, not our intellect that keeps us from God. See, what pride is, is pride is a prison. It is literally a prison in which we can get trapped into and everything else is pushed off around us, it shuts out, it shuts us out, it shuts others out. It shuts God's out God out of the picture completely. So how, here's the thing, how do we say pride? You're not going to be the boss of me? How do we keep pride from being the boss?

Well, here is, I would say the best and easiest way and is quite simple, but it's difficult. It's follow Jesus and unfollow pride. Here's the simple part, following Jesus and unfollowing pride, but here's the really difficult part, actually, following Jesus, actually following Jesus and unfollowing pride, that takes effort that takes hard work, right? to actually follow Jesus to do what Jesus did to be a disciple to like, literally, they say, they used to talk about how disciples wanted to have the deaths of their rabbis feet on them, because they were walking so closely in step with them. And as Jesus being our Rabbi, if we're gonna truly follow Him, step for step and we're right there with him. We should just be dusty and dirty. Right? This is that whole idea of a holy heart is dirty hands, that we should be right on top of that. See, what do we learn from Jesus? I think one of the the most amazing thing that literally the eternity changing thing is that Jesus initiated reconciliation. Whoa, like where we're sorry. Well, there's lots of stories, but let me just give you the big one. It's called the cross. Jesus initiated reconciliation between us and our father. God, it's through him. It's because of him, that he wasn't prideful about this, that we can learn, hey, this is what reconciliation looks like that reconciliation with another person is more important than what we receive or the the prison that we keep ourselves in love. And we gave this verse last week, I love what Paul writes, who understood I think, reconciliation to a bigger level. See, Paul stand needs to be saw. And Paul actually thought he was doing good for God. And he had a lot of pride about it as a faricy, to the point that he was torturing and killing followers of Jesus, followers of the way people who are spreading the good news. And there's even a story in Acts where we see that Paul actually was a part of being overseeing the stoning of Stephen. He was a martyr than because of this. And Paul had an awakening, Paul received reconciliation from Jesus. And it literally changed everything. It's literally why we are here today, because of the work of Paul, and those early disciples who witnessed or knew someone who witnessed and heard and said, that is what I need to follow, I need to stop following my own pride, my own, like, I got this, I'm going to figure out how to do this, I'm creating my bigger blessings. You know, I can just fix all my problems and those around me. And I need to start letting him do the work that he does. And so Paul knew this so well.

He says, in your relationships with one another, with each other, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus. So and then we would say, Well, what mindset was that? Well, what he did was, he made himself nothing. By taking the very nature of a what, of a servant, does pride serve any purpose. He made himself nothing. It by taking the very nature of a servant, a servant leader, being made and human likeness. And being found in appearance, as a man, He humbled Himself, He didn't puff up. He didn't puff up, he humbled himself, he initiates reconciliation by becoming obedient to death, even death on a cross. So I know in our short, little 25 minutes that we get today to talk about a huge emotion, of pride that there needs to be a continued conversation about such a topic and subject. And so I want to invite you right now actually pull out your phones. And you're going to take a picture of this. This is some you can call it Coffee Table Talk, right? Or work conversation is easier. questions that I think you need to keep this conversation going. Three question to ask yourself, how does pride manifest itself in you? What is pride masquerade as in you? and How much longer do you plan to let pride be the boss of you? So these are, these are really difficult things. And for some of you, you're gonna sit there right now. And you're going to be like, Hi, I don't even know how to answer that. I only know how to like, self diagnose. And that's because a lot of us, we have these things called blind spots. And so this is going to be really difficult. But if you want to know the real answers to this, and this self discovery, or a solicited opinion, discovery, look at the people who are closest to you, and around you, and go seek and you're going to find exactly what these things manifest in us and masquerade as in you and your relationships and your day to day life. Right? They will give you the answer you're not looking for. Right? And this is a time not to be puffed up, but to really look at this and say, How do I need to follow Jesus more? So I'll do a little share time? How does pride manifest itself in you? Well, I'm going to tell you, for me, if I'm going to share right now, and be very honest, and show you what sharing looks like is that it manifests manifests itself in me by being very critical. I can be very critical of things. And that's something I really struggle with, like, you know, I don't feel like everyone needs a participation trophy or a high five for showing up and doing what they're asked to do, or a commitment that they made or, you know, like, I've even been critical when my prize all puffed up of you know, someone accomplishes a task or even as simple and I've shared something like this before as, as a you know, a young kids, you know, drawing or coloring and they're like, look at this awesome picture. It's really great. You're like, Man, it's okay. It's not like, awesome. I mean, you're out of the lines and your color choice was kind of not very good, you know, but I can be very critical. And that can be damaging to people around me and what does that actually do? That actually pushes other people out. So they don't want to be around me when I'm full of pride or when I'm being critical about everything when I can't come up with something good to say when I can't compliment what is being done when I can't care for and love people like they need to be loved.

Or what is pride masquerade as in you? What is pride masquerade as in you? Again, if I was going to be really honest with you, for me personally, I become really sarcastic. I can really come become sarcastic and that doesn't help anyone that the definition of sarcasm is actually the tearing at the flesh. You know, we're just going to cut somebody up to even get a laugh or to make someone else feel less than in reality and pride. What does that doing? It's covering up a whole bunch of nonsense in you. It's covering up a whole bunch of nonsense and me to be sarcastic about somebody Haha, yeah, it's real funny, you get a good laugh. Right. But that's actually pride masquerading itself in the midst of me. So how is it for you? What is pride masquerade self as in you? And finally, how much longer do you plan to let pride be the boss of you? How much longer? Are you going to let pride keep you from initiating reconciliation with that person? There's some of you right now that are literally sitting and listening to this and being like that, I don't want to hear it. Are you listening to this? And you're saying like, I actually know what I need to do. But I'm not going to have you tell me to do it. Because I have too much pride, Matt, that it's taking this moment right now of conviction to actually make me move towards reconciliation towards sitting down with my son or daughter and saying, Hey, I'm proud of you. You know, like, right now you can make a whole lot of decisions and say, You know what, pride? You're not the boss of me. You know what, watch this pride. You know what I'm going to do today? I want to sign up for rooted. And I hate zoo. I'll do zoo. I'm done with zoom. I can't do it. It's not community. But you know what pride, I'm going to lean in all the way and I'm going to see what what community I can even find around there. I'm going to make time of my schedule. You know what I'm going to do pride, I'm going to find a small group, a community that I can connect with on a regular basis. You know what pride watch this. I'm going to sit here and watch the children's service with my kids. And we're gonna have a conversation about it. Even though maybe sometimes I don't feel like I can have a conversation about it. Because I just don't feel that educated about what's going on and how to have those types of conversations. You know what pride watch this, You're not the boss of me. I'm going to text my daughter, or my son, or my mom, or my dad would say, hey, let's have a conversation. Let's have a chat about some issues that I've had some of my pride.

You know what pride watch this, You're not the boss of me. Watch what I'm about to do. Pride. You know what? I have money right now. And there's actually people in need right now. And so I could practice what it looks like to be living a generous lifestyle. You know what pride watch this, watch this. I'm going to give for someone else. You want some of that pride. You want some of this, I'm going to actually show up and watch someone's like, awful. recital on zoo, right? Because I'm proud of them. And I want them to know that I care about them. I'm going to sit down and I'm going to tell somebody that I love them. I'm going to write a note to someone. And I'm going to tell them how I really feel about them and how they really make me feel.

I'm going to sit down and open up and just say you know what, I've been screwing it up. I don't have it all. I am a ball of emotions. And these are some things that are hard for me. You know what pride we're gonna have a family meeting. And we're going to talk about what are some of the motions that you're struggling with most right now and then you know what, pride? This is crazy. We're gonna pray about it. And we're gonna pray about it out loud. Proud, You're not the boss of me. You are not the boss of me. I have a boss. He's my Lord and Savior and it's Jesus. So friends, let's, let's worship and respond to our Jesus who loves us so much, that he was obedient to death, even death on the cross. Would you pray with me? For the Goddess, thank you, for Jesus.

God was you just to give us the courage to give us the strength just to look our pride in the face and say You're not the boss of me. And God from that, would you give comfort and peace that only comes from you? We give you just our praise right now. We give you this worship. We love your name we pray. Amen.

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JANUARY 24TH, 2021 // PROVERBS 14:30 // PASTOR LARRY DAVIS

Envy

Envy causes us to compare and compete with others in an unhealthy way. It brings arrogance when we’re winning and discouragement when we’re not. It robs us of contentment and causes us to feel like—as an ancient king put it—we’re chasing after the wind. But envy doesn’t have to be the boss.

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So glad to be with you today.

Northgate, all of you who are joining us in your homes, your workplace. Maybe as you're traveling from here to here, just really thankful that you're inviting us into that space. And I actually want to give a shout out to our awesome hosts that are hosting online, you can talk to them, we have art on there the service today, we have Dave, and a handful of other people. And maybe that's even something you're interested in is in saying like, Hey, I just want to get plugged in right now you can hop in and help be a host for us during our online service on that platform. And that's a great way to connect with people and help walk them through the process. Some of you maybe don't even know that there's an option for you to chat, or received direct prayer conversations with someone else, or someone that's on our staff or one of these hosts. So encourage you to check that out to lean in all the way. Just as in this phase of life that we're in in ways that we can connect is really important. I gotta tell you, I thoroughly enjoyed worship today, that was a special treat. Byron, we go way back, we have a long history, I met Byron back in 2000. So this is 20 years ago, or 21, if you want to do it like that, but a long time ago, and he was actually my gospel choir teacher, I know, I just said that I was in gospel choir, I looked the part I know, he taught me some amazing things about worship. And I have forever been thankful for that. And today was just like, bringing back all the fields about just experiencing worship. I remember, one of the things he taught me is that worship is expressive. And it should like see it on your face, like it should be like ugly, and just raw, and real and deep. And those are all things that I think are important for us to experience. It's just not all pretty and nice and sweet and loving and kind all the time, there's just times that we just have to just get there and let it come out of us. And I think that's when we get to really experience what God has for us, in the midst of genuine worship. So I'm thankful for him and his ministry, and just coming here and with our faith community and sharing that stuff out. So speaking of emotions, we are having a conversation right now about emotions, and how emotions can really become the boss of us that they can control us. And we need to be able to say no to the emotions that can start to be the boss of us. And Jesus had some things to say about this. And Matthew, we've covered this the last couple weeks, as we've continued this conversation. He says it this way, don't you see that whatever enters the mouth, goes into the stomach, and then out of the body? Yes, a couple times of day. We're not going to talk about that though. We see that Jesus. So what are you trying to say to us, it continues, but the things that come out of a person's mouth, the other end come from the heart.

And these defile them, that these things that come out of us that come from our hearts, and they can defy us they can actually put us at odds with God and put us at odds with others. Four, out of the heart Come thoughts of these things that the things that we think of our heart and our mind, it's interchangeable right here murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony and slander and other versions and other gospels, there's even more that he says, See our words reflect the things inside that condition of our hearts. And when we get rattled when things happen to us, and we get shaken, things come out of us. And those are the things that he's saying can defile us, our emotions can get ahold of us. And it can put us at odds with God. And it can put us at odds with other people, relationships, those who are closest to us, those who are watching us from a distance and we can get caught up and find ourselves saying things like, Well, I didn't mean to say that, right? Or I didn't mean to do that. Or I'm not sure where that came from. And Jesus is saying, Yeah, yeah, you know, you know exactly where that came from. Because it's in you, it's what's in you. And that's what you have to control. That's what you have to be aware of what you're putting in you, and what's living in your allowing to lurk and, and just, you know, ruminate in this space, it's gonna come out of you at some point. And you're not gonna really be able to just say, I didn't mean to, I didn't mean to, because people are seeing what's really in there. And it exposes these gross, dark things that are just are just controlling us. And we need to say, No, no, I have a better bigger boss.

So a couple weeks ago, we had a conversation about anger. And we know that nobody wants anger to be the boss of them. And then we had a conversation on this last week about pride and how pride is no longer going to be the boss of us. And today, the thing that I'm going to talk about is in V. In v. Envy is like this, this word, it really can mean jealousy, but envy just sounds like envy, just, it sounds more lurky and, and it like it can do some more damage. And in fact, it can do a lot of damage. There was a guy named King Solomon, not just a guy, a king and the Old Testament, and he had lots of things to say he was one of the wisest men that ever lived. And he experienced a lot of life and made a lot of observations and gave us some really good things to learn that we can grab from the scriptures. And one of those is from Proverbs. In Proverbs, he said, simply envy rots, the bones in the rots, the bones in V leaves us competing with other people. Envy leaves us competing with other people that don't even know that they're in a competition envies that thing that's looking through others, that's jealous that's up against them. And it makes us arrogant, when we're not winning, or leaves us feeling discouraged when we're not it's, it's that thing that when you're staring at someone else, and then they fail or they trip up, or they have that kind of like that moment, that thing that really gross thing inside of you, that says that like really gross thing when you're watching someone else, do a presentation or work hard on something and and they kind of trip up or that that's that's why we're always about the underdog, right? Because we're envious or jealous, or we're competing with them. And we in that gross really thing that's just a serving inside of us, is it some of us really just like to see others fail, right? Because we're, we're working so hard to be better than them or more than them. And the bottom line to all of this is when it comes to envy, we need to knock it off. Just knock it off. Those things that envy causes in us and when it comes out, it's gross. So we just need to knock it off. But the thing is, is it's not that easy, right? If only it was that easy that we could just knock it off, we we could just suddenly take control over it. But it doesn't, it doesn't work like that. See, envy is really not a problem to solve as much as it is attention to manage this is this is something every day that you're going to deal with, every day, you're going to deal with this competitive spirit, or I have to do more, or I have to show that person up or I have to embarrass this person or, you know, over top of and it's that thing that drives you. And so we have to learn how it's not something that we can really solve that jealousy that's in us. But we do have this opportunity to manage the tension that it creates in us. And so Solomon has these beautiful things to say in this word picture that we get to see and he says hey, when you start going to a place mentally with envy when you start mentally going there and it's consuming you and then when you start drifting off even towards envy or discontentment emotionally, emotionally, I want to give you in Scripture Psalm and saying this, this word picture to help you regain balance and grasp what this looks like that this is something important to remember this emotion this pride and anger and fear less than envy, it can throw us off tilt, it can throw us off of balance. And so he says in Ecclesiastes, this is Solomon he says in Ecclesiastes four four, he saw, I saw that all toil, and all achievement spring from one person's envy of another. I thought all that this toil and all achievements spring from one person's envy of another. And so he's saying 3000 years ago right here that the same thing was going on that I could see that everyone's toil the things that they were grasping for everyone was competing, they they were determining where They were where they were with based on where everyone else was around them.

It was a constant comparison. And really it was becoming a comparison trap. And so then he says, this too, is meaningless. I saw that all of the toil achievement spring from one person's envy of another. This too is meaningless. Essentially, he says, This is ridiculous. He gives us this powerful word picture then right here, one that we should etch into our souls. And it's this it's already up here. This word picture is it's a chasing after the wind go back, please. Back on five Yeah. This is the word picture a chasing after the wind chasing after the wind. It's endless. There's there's no finish line. There's there's no peace, because you're always chasing and going and toiling. It's always the fighting the ORS right? Well, there's this new word, it's nicer, hers is bigger, theirs is better. It's faster, they're smarter, it's this constant chasing that you can never catch up to. And what that equals is dissatisfaction, guaranteed. dissatisfaction, guaranteed envy will steal joy from your accomplishments because someone else accomplished more. When you catch yourself looking and you drifting into someone else's lane, we need to say friends, we need to sit there and say no, no envy. I've seen that right? I want you to know right now, You're not the boss of me. It's chasing the wind is chasing the wind, and I don't chase the wind and be you're not gonna be the boss of me. I'm not gonna chase the wind, I don't chase the wind. It's it's sideways energy, it's a waste of time, my life just chasing the wind constantly. And just going after it. It's restless. He continues on it says I'm gonna give you just a bit more of a picture of what this looks like. It says in fools, fold their hands. And they ruin themselves. So essentially saying, Hey, don't don't be non productive. So if you're gonna say, Well, I'm not going to chase the women, because that's going to make me thinking about other things and, and being envious of things and jealous of things. So I'm not going to do anything. I'm just going to fold my hands. I'm doing nothing, right. That's the extreme. That's what you see kids do fine. If I can't do that, then I'll do nothing, right? They're like, Well, no, that's absurd. And that's what we do, too. It's not about not being productive. That's not the answer. He brings these extremes. together by this one example. He says, better is one handful, with with tranquility, then two handfuls with toil and chasing after the wind, see better is one hand with tranquility. In and satisfaction. That's what this word tranquility right here means is its satisfaction or contentment, one hand with contentment. And peace is better than than two hands chasing and toiling and fighting for and grasping. Because it just leaves us wanting more and pressing on his point to all this is actually that less is more, when it leads to contentment. Less is more and the result of that is actually peace.

It's peace.

That's contentment is tranquility, better is one handful of tranquility than the two hands grasping and striving and going and pretending and you know, not caring for and tearing down. He continues to give us this full broad spectrum of the picture. He says in verse seven continuous says again, I saw something meaningless again, again, I saw something that was ridiculous. Let me tell you what I saw under the sun, which is basically here everything that he saw around him or you know, happening amongst him. I saw something meaningless under the sun, there was a man and he was all alone. He had neither son nor brother, which essentially meant this that he was all alone. He didn't have a son or brother. So he had no one at that time to leave an inheritance to at that time, women couldn't receive an inheritance. That's how they did it back then. And so he's saying, hey, he I saw this guy, he had no one to leave any of his things to. He had no one he could give this stuff to, and there was no end to his toil. Yet his eyes were not content with his wealth. So that he asked for whom am I toiling? And why am I depriving myself of enjoyment? For whom am I toiling? I'm uh, you know, a lot of people will say this. Well, well, I toil like the things that I'm doing and why I'm just fighting and pursuing and going after so hard and you know, trying to reach that thing as I'm doing it for my kids. Are you? Are you really doing that for your kids? Is that what you tell your kids? Oh, yeah, sorry, I'm not anything. You guys don't really know I'm in a competition with everyone around me to prove a point to a handful of people that maybe you don't even know I needed to prove a point to. That's why I'm not showing up at your thing. That's why I'm not really there mentally or emotionally when we have time together. You know, are your kids really standing at the door in the morning cheering on being like, Thanks, Dad, Thanks, Mom, for doing this for us. Go do it for us. Right? We can get caught in that trap of excuses of why we're doing the things that we're doing. Why am I doing this? Well, what am I trying to prove? We go to ask, and whom, whom are we trying to prove it to? For some of you, right now thinking, you could actually put a name to that you could put a name to who you're trying to prove it to. And why you would toil and chase the wind so hard, and you're you're envious. And to get some sort of accolades that you think that you need, you could actually put a face to that. And as disturbing as this is, and I know, this is reality, for so many people, you actually could put a name and a face to that person. And they're not even on this planet anymore. They've died. And yet you find yourself still in this messy place where your emotions, trying to prove yourself trying to prove a point, trying to prove and make them proud enough, or show them or show them who they are. And it's destructive to you. It's, it's toiling and the thing is Mrs. The toughest part, they don't even know it. And they don't even care. Those were some eye opening moments for me, as I myself has struggled with chasing the wind toiling for approval and understanding when I realized they don't even care. They don't even know what I'm doing, and how much this is consuming me and essentially wrecking the things around me. And so that's the question, why am I depriving myself of this enjoyment? He couldn't stop and enjoy what he had. And he didn't know why perhaps you can't either. And you don't know why. This, too, is meaningless. A miserable business. This too, is meaningless, a miserable business. I was having a conversation this week, actually, with a dear friend of mine. And we've been, you know, working through some stuff and mentally and there's emotions and all this stuff that's going on. And he brought like a draw job or like it was a stop and a conversation. He said, Yeah, so my counselor said, Why is it you're so willing to let everyone else around you down except for your work find ourselves there.

We are willing to let the things around us down so much more quickly than work, then that thing we're competing with someone else at. And the thing is, friends is, you will never I will never be who we were born to be as long as we're looking over our shoulder at everybody else. And if you're a Christian, if you're a follower of Jesus, this is even more serious. You'll never experience God's purpose for your life while distracted with the purpose that God has for other people in their life. says in Proverbs 1430 says a heart at peace gives life to the body. But envy and this is where we started, rots the bone. A heart at peace gives life tranquility when we get to just hold that with one hand. But envy and toil and chasing rots the bones, you can't compare or compete your way to peace. You can't win chasing the wind. I don't know how many of you have seen this. Or if you even have the opportunity to see this is a really wonderful movie out there right now that just came out during this pandemic called soul. It's on Disney Plus, you can watch it then and I've had tons of conversations with people that didn't realize like I didn't really think it was like a thing and you know, or my kids watched And I want to tell you that I think that this movie represents this idea of envy. And really the epitome of it because we get lost in chasing what we think, is our purpose in life. And I will tell you that there's actually really beautiful conversations. If you want to sit down this week and do like a little homework time, watch this movie solo, or watch it with someone else, and then have deeper conversations about theology in life and purpose and see what comes out of that as it challenges us to do that. God has given you a race to run. We need to friends, get our emotions under control and say envy, you're not going to be the boss of me, I'm going to stay in my lane. I'm going to stay right there. I'm gonna thrive right there where I am. And I'm going to change someone's world from right there. I'm gonna be present for the things around me. I'm going to stop trying to compete against other people who don't even realize that I'm competing with them. I'm gonna stop scrolling through stuff that just is filling me up with you're a loser. You're a loser. You're a loser. You're a loser. Oh, yeah. And then you put it away, and then you pull it back out. You're like, let me see what's going on the world. Oh, you're a loser. You're we just compare, right? We need to friends look to others for inspiration. Not? Not. Not, not intimidation. We don't need to be them. I love them. I've got beautiful friends.

And I have these conversations all the time about someone else trying to imitate someone else like God that's wanting to be that's what I need to be. That's a No, no, you need to be inspired by who they are. It's the same thing when it comes to following Jesus into being a follower of Jesus being his disciple. Yes, you need to be that you need to be that you need to be that and then you go, I can't be that right? You can't. He's Jesus. You can't. They're like, awesome at what they're doing and are living out their purpose, but, but you can be inspired by them. And you can strive to own your stuff. And to keep working and being better and holding that balance and saying things like it envy, you're not going to be the boss of me and I'm going to celebrate when I can't participate. I love this Jordan Peterson writes, in his book 12 rules for life. compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not who somebody else is today. compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today. Don't miss what life has for you. Friends. Jesus put it so beautifully. To his followers. He said hey, don't compare yourself to one another. Love one another. He said this, this friends. This friends, is how you will know your mind disciples. This is how you'll know other people are followers of Jesus. They're not comparing themselves to one another saying this is a you're good enough and, and and leveling up. No, no, they are gonna love one another. And envy gets in the way of love. loving one another. It's not a nice to do. It's a must do loving one another.

It's mission critical. Jesus said it. That's how you're going to know who people are. That's how they're going to be set apart. Don't chase the wind. It's meaningless. And if you do what's meaningless for too long, your life becomes meaningless. If you do what's meaningless for too long in the end, your life will lack meaning. So don't chase the wind. So grab your phones right now, wherever you're at. You can take a picture of this slide. We're going to put it up here. Here's some conversation to have with the people around you. And you can ask in what areas am I most inclined to chase the wind? What areas Am I finding myself constantly just chasing the wind and toiling? Are you competing eternally with anyone? A parent, a sibling, older brother, an older sister, a cousin, a friend and then memorize ecclesiasticus for six better is a one handful tranquillity, then two handfuls with toil and chasing after the wind. Let's do work this week friends that say hey emotions, You're not the boss. Hey, anger, You're not the boss of me. A pride You're not the boss of me and envy. I will not chase the wind. You are not the boss of me. Would you pray with me? Father God, thank you for your word. Thank you for the wisdom that comes from your word. God, thank you for Jesus. Thank you for his love for us. God may as we just respond in worship right now May we just sit in? May we just be present and God may we just feel the emotions, the raw emotions of worship that come out of us the ugly, the beautiful, that the richness the undeveloped. God may we grow in these moments and the knowledge of your grace and your true name we pray. Amen. Let's respond in worship.

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JANUARY 31ST, 2021 // MATTHEW 8:23-27 // PASTOR KAYLA HURST

Fear

All of us walk through life with occasional fear. And it’s not always a bad thing. Fear is a byproduct of our ability to think about what might happen in the future, and it can protect us from harm. However, living with too much fear can cause us to be self-absorbed, distracted, and overly protective. But the good news is this: You don’t have to be afraid even when there’s something to be afraid of.

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Good morning friends my name is Pastor Kayla, and I'm so glad I get to spend this morning with you even though I'm stuck here at my house. Quick note on that, I feel fine. No symptoms at all. But we are trying to function out of an abundance of caution. I would hate to get pastor Larry or the band sick.

So I still wanted to share this message with you though because God has been doing a work in me this week as I've been studying for it. And I expect him to do the same in your life as well. See, at the beginning of this year, we started a series called You're not the boss of me. And it's all about how we can say no to the emotions that compete for control over our lives. We talk about all of this. And we're spending so many weeks talking about all of the different emotions because we all have them. And they all try and get control of our lives in my life. Personally, it seems to pop up most they try and get most control over both my mood, and my mouth. I'm not sure about any of you. But that's how it manifests in my life. Well, today I want to talk to you about the emotion of fear. Fear is actually something that Bible has a lot to say about. In fact, this last fall, we spent an entire series talking about how we can hand our anxiety over to god it was called anxious for nothing. And if this is something that is a particular struggle for you, you might want to go back on our YouTube channel and take a listen to those weeks. It's called anxious for nothing. Friends, nobody wants fear or worry to be the boss in their life. And some of you, though, have already started to check out because fear is just not something that you deal with. In fact, some of your closest family and friends probably wish that you would have a little bit of fear, because maybe that would help out. You're the ones that are like jumping out of the plane of life you run and you don't look first. And you're just not worried about it at all. And then there are others of you and yes, I know you're out there. Because I have to keep my eye out for you at all times. There are some of you that like to give fear as a gift. Like, you know, you're the ones that like to scare other people. Have you experienced this enables you, I actually hired one of these people. And she's awful. I had no idea that she was like this until after I hired her. But just just take a look at what I have to work with. Quick note. This is pre COVID times.

Okay, as you can see, this is actually the work of the devil, our relationship is still recovering. But regardless, friends, nobody, nobody wants fear or worry or anxiety to be the boss. There might be a few of you listen that don't deal with it. But most of us there is some bit of fear and worry and anxiety that creeps into our lives. And it can happen daily fear when it's in that seat on the bus, it can rob us of opportunities, it can mess up our relationships. I mean, it can even interfere with our sleep. It's working really hard to be the boss but but here's the interesting part about fear. It's actually a byproduct of something good. Fear is the byproduct and our ability to accumulate knowledge and project into the future. And friends that ability is a gift. This ability to gather up knowledge and project into the future is the same ability. We have to imagine and Dream and hope. I would hate to give up those moments of like, I can't wait to see the flip side of the I can't wait moments are the what if moments, you see, our ability to dream about the future is also our ability to worry about the future. Now, just like we said in the fall, if there is a time and place for fear, it can keep us from doing dumb and dangerous things. But we just don't want fear to be the boss. We don't want it driving our lives, because it can distract us. And, frankly, it causes us all to become a little bit self absorbed, because we're trying to self Preserve. Jesus actually says quite a bit about fear. And here's the bottom line that Jesus teaches pretty simple. Fear not.

Yeah, that's it. Just stop it. Quit being afraid.

Now, if you look at that, in isolation, that lesson from Jesus, it sounds naive, just quit it. I'm not sure that's going to work. And that's one of the problems we have with how we treat the Bible. Sometimes we just kind of drop in on these moments and Jesus life and we pick out a verse without context. But here's the thing about Jesus and this teaching on fear, he spent a lot of time over the course of his entire ministry, and especially with his 12 apostles, teaching them about how not to be afraid. This isn't just one story. It's a recurring theme of Jesus teaching. It's also one of those things that's so easy to say, but virtually impossible to do. So we're gonna jump around a little bit today, mostly, and Matthew, which is the first book in the New Testament is one of the Gospels the story of Jesus life. But I don't just want to tell you one story of Jesus teaching on fear, I want you to see the whole story, and maybe even the why, and some of the how. So in Matthew 10, Jesus had just finished picking the disciples. Now to explain that there was usually a big crowd, wherever Jesus went, they find out he was nearby, and a crowd would form. Now there was a smaller group in the crowd called disciples, and they followed Jesus, wherever he went, kind of like, I don't know, groupies. But inside that group, there was an even smaller group of 12 people called apostles. Now, these are the ones that Jesus hand picked specifically to teach, and then send out, he gets those 12 guys together, and he's trying to prepare them for what it's going to be like. He says, you'll be arrested and beaten. And he goes on, he says, you're going to be flogged and hated, he actually goes on for quite a while about how bad it's going to be for them. He even gives them a word picture to describe what he's doing. He says, I am sending you out, like sheep among wolves. Hey, thanks for signing up, guys. Here's the terms of the contract you just signed. It's bloody Carnage for you. And then he says these words, fear not. Now, the crazy part is that Jesus had already started seeding this idea in their minds. Well before now, a couple chapters earlier in Matthew eight, Jesus had taken them on a field trip. You see, everything Jesus does is intentional. So when you look at this familiar story, with that perspective, it starts to make even more sense. Matthew eight, starting in verse 23, says, then he got into the boat and his disciples followed him. Quick note, I love that simplicity. Jesus gets into the boat, and the disciples followed him, period.

Then it says, suddenly, a furious storm came up on the lake, suddenly now, this actually does happen a lot on this lake in this part of the world, storms would just whip up out of nowhere. So these guys were actually pretty accustomed to that. But this was something altogether different. This wasn't just some wind or a storm. Matthew makes a point to say that it was a furious storm.

Suddenly, a furious storm came up on the lake so that the waves swept over the boat. But Jesus was sleeping. Okay, I'm sorry. Really? See? You got to picture this. In reality, you can't just calmly read this. Like it's nothing. This is when I wish the Bible was in Technicolor, so we could really get the whole Gist here. First, this storm is awful. There is rain there is wind. This is not a big boat. Everybody on it is soaked and a complete mess. Think hair matted down freezing and yelling, trying to keep the boat from capsizing. These guys are in a panic. And Jesus is sleeping. Honestly, how is it even possible? Like, from a physical standpoint, Jesus has got to be soaking wet. It's loud, there are people screaming because of the wind. And no one is having a calm conversation. But Matthew describes that scene and then says Jesus is sleeping. Sometimes I wonder if he wasn't just faking it. But it says the disciples went and woke him saying, Lord save us. We're going to drown. Now hear me, this was not the gentle nudge of a morning like a sweet mom morning. No, they went straight to the you're gonna miss the bus or like, fire, like the total mom yell. They were worried they were going to die. And then Jesus, I love it. Because it doesn't even say that he gets up from where he's sleeping. Just imagine him kind of like, propping himself up a little bit. And Jesus replied, You have little faith? Why are you so afraid? Why are we so afraid? This has to be one of the stupidest questions. Why are we afraid? Because we're literally about to die. There is water in the boat, that this isn't going to end? Well. When you're about to die, Jesus, you're afraid that's why we're afraid. But he didn't even give them time to respond. And this is the best part. See? See, this is where we realize this story is not about Jesus having power over nature. Although it's true. This is a lesson on fear. And we can know that because of Jesus question. Why are you afraid? So? Now Jesus gets up, no panic, all calm.

And by the way isn't?

Isn't that good news.

And no matter what's going on around us, our God does not panic. He is always the cool head in the room every time. It says, then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves and it was completely calm. Then they asked the question we all have to ask at one time in our lives, says the men were amazed and asked, What kind of man is this? Even the winds and the waves obey Him? To hear it? What kind of man is this? Now see, when Mark tells this story, his version in the literal translation says that instead of they were amazed, it says they feared a great fear. That's literal translation, he actually uses that same word twice in the sentence. So it's like he's trying to communicate that the second fear they experienced was bigger than the first one. Their fear of what just happened in the storm, the fear, the respect of who they were standing within the boat was even bigger than that fear. So for just a moment, their amazement, their confidence and respect in Jesus was bigger than the fear they had of their situation. That was the purpose of this field trip. And it's a good lesson for us to do, you don't have to allow fear to overwhelm you, you don't have to let fear be the boss. Because Jesus is more overwhelming, more powerful. He's more powerful than whatever fear you've got. So these apostles, they get it for just a minute. And then a couple days later, Jesus is talking to them. And again, he says, Don't be afraid. But this time, he's more specific. Matthew chapter 10. Starting in verse 28, he says,

Do not be afraid of those who kill the body, but cannot kill the soul. See, Jesus is pointing out, even in the ancient world that there is more to us than just what can be seen. You are more than just a body you have a soul. I was a big deal then. And it's a big deal. Now. He's saying Don't be afraid of those people or of the things of the storms, right? That can kill your body. He was reminding them of that storm thing from a couple days ago. Remember that field trip? Yeah. Just your body was in trouble then. Then he goes on rather be afraid of the one who can destroy both soul and body and how. And then he gives an example from nature, something that they can under stand outside of themselves, he says, are not two sparrows sold for a penny can't not one of them will fall to the ground outside your father's care, then he takes it back to them. Even the very hairs on your head are numbered. So don't be afraid, you are worth more than many sparrows. He's saying, Don't you know that you're so valuable to God, he's got an eye on every detail of your life, even on the hairs of your head. You don't have to be afraid because God knows you. And he cares about you. Even when the world is crashing down around you, God knows and he cares. And he is bigger than all of it.

So surely, these apostles have to be starting to get it. But Jesus signs them up for another field trip. This one is another story you might know already. It's just a couple pages over. And Matthew 14, Jesus has been preaching all day to a big crowd, and he went a little long. And now there's 1000s of people who have no food, and it is well past dinnertime. So the deceived the disciples, they tell Jesus, hey, Jesus, these people have got to go home and eat, you went kind of long. And now they're going to starve. And Jesus looks at his 12 guys and says, okay, you feed them. And they're like, wait, which one of us totally dropped the ball in the catering? Jesus, we don't have any food for these people. And then there's the part where the little boy gives up his lunch of five loaves of bread and two fish, which can we just say the only one who came prepared was a little kid. I think that'll preach. So Jesus prays over this little lunch box and hands the pieces to the 12 apostles, and they pass out the food and everybody gets enough. And there's a lot leftover. See, the apostles confidence at this point is at an all time high. Jesus invited them to be a part of a miracle. These guys are in good shape. And they could not possibly be afraid of anything. But look at verse 22.

Immediately, immediately, as if Jesus knew it was time for a pop quiz, to be sure the lesson took says immediately Jesus made the disciples get into the boat, and go on ahead of him to the other side while he dismissed the crowd. I love that Jesus made them. The Greek word for made actually means that he forced them into the boat. Why do you think he had to force them? Well, I mean, they were probably thinking, yeah, we're not getting into the boat with you anymore. So does makes them get in and then he pushes them off the beach. And then he goes and dismisses the crowd. hours later, they're struggling a little bit, rowing against the wind. And it says in verse 25, shortly before dawn, Jesus went out to them walking on the lake. These guys had been rowing for hours against the wind. And just before dawn, Jesus takes the shortcut, like, directly across the lake, he walks on the water toward the boat. Verse 26, when the disciples saw him walking on the lake, they were terrified. It's a ghost, they said, and cried out in fear. I mean, I don't blame them, but they totally freak out again. They just were a part of a miracle a few hours ago, but now they're in a panic. He goes on. But Jesus immediately said to them, Take courage. It is I don't be afraid. You got to wonder if he wasn't like, how many field trips and sermons and examples Do you guys need? You don't have to be afraid as long as I am here. Fear doesn't get to be the boss when I'm around. So then Peter even test out this new found courage, and he goes out on the lake with Jesus. But he lets fear get ahold of him and he starts to sink. Jesus catches him and goes over the lesson one more time when I am here, guys. I win every time. Don't be afraid that they did.

These guys fear right up to the very end. The lesson just did not stick. See, Jesus raised Lazarus from the dead. He heals countless people in front of their eyes, all of it leading up to his ride into Jerusalem on a donkey. And they're starting to really believe that he's the Messiah. He's the one that they've been waiting for to come and save them from the oppression. They're living under the Roman rule. They thought he was about to declare himself King and overthrow the whole thing. They sit down, they have their last meal together. And then that night, at the height of their confidence, Jesus was arrested. The disciples panicked, they hid, they live, they denied, they watched Jesus be crucified. And when they knew he was dead, fear one.

They thought, what kind of man was that? See, we thought it was the Messiah. They believed they experienced all of it, but but Rome, Rome couldn't have killed the Messiah. So, so they thought we must have been wrong or tricked. We either misunderstood what he was saying, or he lied.

But then, then the women came back from the garden Three days later talking crazy, saying that Jesus had risen. So those apostles, they go, they go, and they get to peek into an empty tomb. And then later, later, they meet their resurrected friend. This time, though, this time it clicked. See, that's the power of the resurrection. When Jesus rose from the grave, everything he said about himself got an exclamation point. Things that didn't make sense before. Now, they made perfect sense, especially what Jesus taught about fear. You see, for you and me, the resurrection is Easter. But for those first century believers, the resurrection was everything. It was their source of strength and boldness and courage. It proved that Jesus was really who He said He was, Jesus could be trusted. The world is still a scary place, but they no longer needed to be afraid. They feared not. And they fear not, and they came out of hiding. This is amazing. We can't even imagine this, we can't imagine because there's no parallel in our lives. They willingly face down the very men that Jesus had, that arrested Jesus, the ones that had beaten and crucified Him. And then they went on to change the world, because fear not changes the world. This was a generation of men and women, the very first Christians that lost their fear of death. And when someone has lost their fear of death, it is very difficult to threaten them. Late in the second century Roman medical writer Claudius gallinas, he examined the bodies of Christians as they died from their injuries in the Roman arena, under Marcus Aurelius, this persecution. Here's what he said, about those Christians that were killed for fearlessness of death, and the Hereafter is something we witness in them every day. So what changed for these guys? The resurrection. See, when you worship someone who has mastered life, and then conquered death, when you know that, that God he sees you and He cares for you, when that guy raises from the dead, you don't have to be afraid anymore. Now, don't get me wrong. Fear is always lurking. It is a part of our human experience. There are lots of tricks and tips to cope with fear but get this. Peter, the guy who failed the boat ride, panics during Jesus arrest, denied that he even knew Jesus while he was on trial and then hid out in a locked room after Jesus death. years after the resurrection, Peter wrote to a group of people like us, the people who didn't get to see all that Jesus did, but they still chose to believe. And he says this first Peter five, cast all your cares on Him, because He cares for you. Cast your cares on Jesus. This literally means to transfer all your worry to him. And Peter should know he faced things we can't imagine. In fact, he was later executed in Nero's Rome. But he was confident that the promise Jesus extended to him was available to us.

He's telling us we can say with confidence, fear.

You are not the boss of me.

I already have a boss. And he conquered life and death. He is who he claimed to be. He is a worthy of my worship and all my trust. The life of Jesus is an invitation, his death, and resurrection are a promise, you can follow Him and fear not, because he is with you. And that is enough. Friends, as you walk through this week, I want you to think about these questions, there's just three of them. First, think and ask yourself on a scale of one to 10 how fearful are you? And you can do it by, you know, specific instance, or just an fear that just kind of sticks around scale of one to 10? How fearful are you? And then second, what is your go to coping mechanism? What is it that you do when you feel afraid? Is it you know, crawling under the covers? Is it watching TV? Is it? I don't know, whatever it is, what is your go to coping mechanism right now?

And then third, what would it look like or sound like for you to take Peters advice, and cast all your cares on Jesus? What would it look like to get rid of whatever that coping mechanism is right now? and trade it out for casting all of your cares? on Jesus. He's the one that's trustworthy. He's the one that we can trust, to hold on to those to dispel all the fears. Because he mastered life and he defeated death. Because of the resurrection. We don't have to allow fear to be the boss of us anymore.

Will you pray with me?

God, thank you.

Thank you for being a bigger than all of our fears. Thank you for sending Jesus to live a perfect life and then to conquer death for us. God, thank you for being trustworthy. Thank you for being being enough. Being powerful, being good for seeing us for seeing what's going on in our life for knowing all of the details for never being surprised and for caring for us the whole time. God We love you, and we trust you. We know that you are good and loving and powerful. It's in the name of your son Jesus we pray amen.

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FEBRUARY 7TH, 2021 // JOHN 8:2-11 // PASTOR LARRY DAVIS

Greed

Greed causes us to want more in an unhealthy way. It tells us we will be happy when we have more and discouragement when we don't. It ultimately robs us of contentment. But envy doesn’t have to be the boss.

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Hey, friends morning, so glad to be with you. My name is Larry, I'm one of the pastor's here. And I know today some of you guys are getting ready for the Super Bowl and you're getting a bunch of food ready. And I just want to tell you some other exciting news or things that we're looking forward to, as we get started today, and that is that on February 21, we're going to go back to how we were experiencing some in person gatherings. As in when we were in red, we were in that red tear. So where we have tables throughout the room, and we have about a space for about 100 people to come in three different services, we're going to go back to a Thursday night service. So that'll be on the 19th of February. And then on Sunday, the 21st. at both locations, we'll be doing services. So we're going to give you some more information about that coming in the next couple of weeks for those of you who feel ready, and comfortable. And for those of you who are not ready yet, totally get it. And I want you to be comfortable, I want all of us to be safe, this is the way that we're loving others. And so we're still gonna have the same online experience, we're still gonna have the same online groups, we're gonna still have the same online classes, we're gonna still have the same opportunities for you to connect the way that you've been connecting, or maybe you didn't realize we had all those ways of connecting over in this virtual space. And so we would love for you to engage in that we think it's so important, and it's so powerful a community does, which is why so many of us have been yearning for this for this past year. Incredible that it's been almost one year. So looking forward to seeing some of your faces in a safe way in a couple weeks, both of the Benicia campus and the San Francisco campus. So there's that.

Today, we are wrapping up this series that we've been talking about over the last few weeks. And we started the year off with, You're not the boss of me. And we're talking specifically about emotions that can overtake us and can control us and be the boss of us at times. And what we've realized is that we've just got a better boss, we've got a better boss and Jesus and who he is and what he does for us. And so we've been going through this scripture and Matthew, over the last few weeks, it says this, but the things that come out of a person's mouth come from the heart. These are your emotions, the things that we're saying, These things can actually defile you, you know, and you're you're saying I didn't mean to say that, or whoops, that's not how I meant it, or it just comes out of nowhere. It's like that shocking thing when you're just rattled and shaken up, right? Those are the things that are coming from the heart and it can mess you up. It can mess up relationships with you and with God and with others. As we let that stuff eat at us. Four out of the heart Come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what defile a person, these emotions when we let them well up and take control and then life happens, and we get shaken up whatever is inside, then eventually we'll just come out.

So we've had a conversation about our emotions, we we got to talk for a little bit about pride and anger in fear. And today, the topic that I want to talk to you about is something that I have never had anyone show up in my office in 20 years of ministry. I don't think I've heard of any other of my friends that are in ministry, have someone show up in divulge this as a problem in their life coming and sitting down saying I really need help with this. And that topic, specifically that we're going to wrap this all up with today is greed. greed. I've never had anyone show up and say, I have agreed problem. But now hear me this. I'm not going to talk about money today. I'm not gonna mention money. We're not going to talk about money. A lot of people just equate greed with money. What I want to dig into is the emotional side of greed and we're going to use actually the definition of greed. If you Google this, it's an intense and selfish desire for something, an intense and selfish desire for something which usually equates to money, power, food dominance, to make someone feel less than it's this intense, selfish desire to serve self. And this is greed. And so I want to focus today on the emotions when that emotion wells up and as the damage it can do, and maybe some proper steps that we can take to make sure that we're in control of greed as well as up and to not let it be the boss of us. Because when it is, it does tremendous damage to those we love. And it really separates us in a relationship with God, as well. So I'm gonna go through a little bit of a story that's in the New Testament is found in john chapter eight. This story, though, I'll preface it with this. This story is a story that most all theologians agree that was not actually in the original scriptures. So there was the original scriptures that were found and seen multiple copies of this. And it wasn't until much, much much much later that this story and this little piece of Scripture was introduced.

So you might say, well, then why are we talking about it? Well, it's in the Bible. Right? The other piece of it is, is it's a story that I think that we can take a lot of lessons from, but at the same time, I want to recognize what it is and where it came from. In the part, it potentially plays in the whole, the totality of that book. So for those of you who are a little bit more learned in that area, you might already be saying, like, Ah, this story is, you know, not even really in there or in a lot of them. There's actually a handful of scriptures that you can go through in the New Testament. And if you use like free apps, like you version or other online tools, it'll actually show you it'll be like parents statically, or bracketed. And then there's sub notes. that'll tell you kind of what people think or when this came in or didn't come in. And other examples like the end of Mark, if you look in there, so some of you I just teased your interest. But now to the story. All right. So Johnny says this, early in the morning, he he is Jesus, that's who we're talking about, came again to the temple. All the people came to him and said, and he sat down, and he taught them. So it was all the people. So all the people around there came because they wanted to hear when he showed up when Jesus showed up in the temple to give a teaching, everyone showed up. And then it says that he sat down and taught them which was actually showing authority, you would sit down and people would sit in front of you as this authoritative spot to learn from them. You go the next one, the scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in adultery, in placing her in the midst. They said to him, teacher, this woman has been caught in the act of adultery. Now, in the law, Moses commanded us to stone such a woman. So what do you say? What should we do? This, they said, to test him to test Jesus, that they might have some charges to bring against him against Jesus. And then Jesus did this. He bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. I hope somebody is okay. There was a big crash. And as they continue to ask him, they stood up and said to them, let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw the stone at her. And once more, he bent down and then begin to doodle and write on the ground again. But when they heard it, they went away one by one, beginning with the older ones. And Jesus was left alone with a woman standing right there before Him. Jesus stood up and said to her woman, where are they has no one condemned you? She said, No one Lord. And Jesus said, neither do I condemn you go. And from now on sin no more. So the emotions of this scene right now is what I wanted to discuss when it comes to greed and how we can interact with that, and maybe how we can feel it.

So I'm gonna walk back through and just kind of paint this picture in a little bit more of a narrative way. So we can try to understand what Jesus was trying to display through the story that we're told in the Bible. So Jesus has come into a church service, and many people gathered around and then he began to teach in a room. That's a lot like this or a lot like the room maybe that you're in right now. But there's people that are focused on this teaching. There was a group of people, I call them the Pharisees and Sadducees. Or the scribes, I call them like the mall cops, right? They're the people are kind of in charge, and they make everything's okay. They do some of the teaching, they enforce the rules, right? And really, it frustrates lots of people because they're, you know, big and bad and tough. And they've got a fake batch, right? So, Jesus is there in this group of people now have set up this, this thing to entrap him or to put them on the spot in front of everyone. And so they barge in and they bring this woman in who's caught in the act of adultery. Now we can dig into what caught in the act of adultery meant or what she was wearing, or literally like what was going on. But they had caught her in this act brought her in front of everyone. So this is, this is a shocking moment right now. This would like shock everyone because there's a suddenly a ruckus and now a woman who's maybe like screaming or frustrated or being dragged up. And then Jesus is interrupted, and they're saying, pay attention to this focus only to this right now. You tell us what the scripture says. Because we know what the scripture says in Moses, his law that says that, if anyone's caught miss that word is stoner, so we're gonna kill her in front of everyone. That's what we should do. So now what do you say that we do? Now notice Jesus's posture. This is a scene that is moving so fast. Their cat he's casually probably teaching and, and it's helping people and discussing things and then suddenly, there's this ruckus barged in, and it's just boom, boom, boom, boom, so many things that are happening. everyone's attention is distracted around. And now, there's this focus on this woman that's, you know, that whether they know her, they don't know her in the community. And they're asking Jesus, what do you say? What do you say, tell us what to do. We've got our rocks ready, what are we going to do? Jesus took this really fast situation. And we can see from his posture when emotions were rearing up this selfish desire that we see in greed, this intense, selfish desire to do something to someone else for our own reasoning to entrap someone else to make power over them. Jesus slows down and he starts to color on the ground. He bins deck back down any doodles. Now there's a lot of people that you know, discuss, like, what was he writing? Or, and, you know, this is what he probably said he probably had this long thing. And he was talking, you know, nonsense to them and bringing up all of their sins.

And here's the deal. If we were supposed to know what he was doodling or writing on the ground, it would have told us we would know. So we what we want to see right here is his posture. Now, what I can equate this to, is like the adult coloring book movement, right? Everyone's in the adult coloring and, and your kids or someone or life comes around you and they're like Mom, Mom, Mom, mom, right? And then say, I don't have a coloring book. So don't use my wife as an example. Right? Mom, Mom, mom, and she can just be like, oh, calm down in color. So Jesus is now slowed down the situation. And he's doodling, right? So they continue to lean into that. And so he pauses and stops and brings up a question and asks, which of you haven't sinned? Now, one of the things that happened in that culture in that time, is that if you caught someone in a sin, and you wanted to bring it in front of people to be judged, the person who caught them had to actually catch them in the act, right? So stealing something made to catch them stealing. And they could not actually struggle or have dealt with that sin themself. So if they're going to bring a thief in front of people, they can have ever had a history of thieving, or have an issue with feeding themselves, right. So Jesus is in front of them saying, how many of you have just not ever made a mistake? How many of you have not ever sent, you'd be the first to make this judgment and to throw this rock? And then we see that they slowly walk away from the oldest to the youngest, as he then goes back to coloring on the ground, and then has a conversation with her since he was left who's condemned, you know, one, she says, neither do I condemn you. And then he says is really powerful thing that we see all throughout his reconciliation of this ministry, which is now go and sin no more. Change, repent, shift.

So what's Jesus trying to display in this picture? I think that if we want greed to not be the boss of of us that to put greed in its place, we must let go of swift judgment. We have to let go of swift judgment. Because I can often find you can often find yourself as one of those people holding on to those rocks. You're like, Come on, let's do it. We saw what they did wrong and everyone gets a rock. Let's go ahead and pounce on them. And it's attacking Packer. Right. But he was doodling in the dirt. He slowed down. He didn't do this swift judgment movement. Right. And I think one of the reputations that we have, as followers of Jesus, is that we are so quick to judge, we are so quick to judge each other, and people that we don't even know. Right? Look at social media right now look at it in this past year, as we've dealt with all kinds of in justices and political lenses in this pandemic that's turning into an epidemic. We are unloading on people, I had a conversation with a dear friend of mine just this last week and talked about how he was out of Facebook for the last month and a half. And he was loving it, and enjoying it because he had to stop for his soul. Right? Because what he was seeing was his friends he was getting frustrated with, and there wasn't even a place to have a conversation. And then he was watching his friends, attack their friends, and friends against each other. And it's just destroying each other because everyone was so quick, so Swift, to judge. And we do this with other people. But look at Jesus. He embodies this idea of slowing down right here, he stopped and took a breath and did some coloring. It reminds me of this scripture, and James, which was the writer of this was actually Jesus's half brother, who actually said, You're my Lord, right? This is powerful. He writes it right at the beginning of his letter, he says in James 119, be quick to listen, be slow to speak, which isn't fast. Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. How many times have you felt yourself with this intense, selfish desire to judge someone else? Right, to make you feel better, and to go fast, and to go hard without understanding all this story.

I think the other thing that we need to see if we want to agree not to be the boss of us is that to put greed in its place, we must let go of being right. is a dagger, we must let go of being right. The reason that we are so quick to judge and so swift to judge is really this. Why would we wait to judge someone else when we already know we're right, right? That's how we act. I'm right. So I'm going to judge you I'm going to come hard, I'm going to go after it. I'm not going to slow down. Because I'm right. The thing is, is that we see in this story right here is Jesus never looked at them, and told these Pharisees and scribes that they were wrong. Because they were right, and what they were saying and what they were taught and what they knew. But the way in which they did it, the way in which they quickly judged the way in which they quickly wanted to be right to entrap someone this intense, selfish desire, right to serve themselves. And to tear down others is wrong. We can be so right about something but we can be so wrong in the way we handled it because we can be greedy, our emotions to be right. You can be right, according to the letter of the law, but you can completely miss the spirit of it. And we see that Jesus summarized hundreds of laws into the greatest commandment, we see that he summarized hundreds of laws into the greatest commandment, which is to love God, with all your heart, with all your mind and with all your soul. And Mark, he added strength with all of you, right? And so we we wander around, we then scoop that up and say, Okay, I'm going to love God with all of me. And I wonder if we as believers are known as being carriers of the truth, which is that God is love. That he has a tremendous amount and an amount that we can't even grasp when it comes to grace in our life and judgment, and being right, that we are the ambassadors of truth because we have discovered the truth, those of us who are followers of Jesus. But the thing that can happen is we can become greedy in situations when we are shaken up, the things of our heart can start to come out, when we are quick to speak, specifically when we are quick to speak, because we know the truth. Because we have the truth.

Because we have the truth. We actually believe that we can speak to anyone without hesitation, you met that person. Have you been that person? That because you have the truth, you believe you can speak to anyone about anything. Without hesitation. The Bible teaches us that we are to speak truth in love. Now we wrestle this because, you know, we're like, you gotta tell the truth. And it's hard truth. But you got to do in a loving way. And loving we learned from Jesus is like a normal tone of voice. Loving in the way of Jesus is actually looking into the deeper issues of why that's taking place in their life. And then coming alongside of them and saying, what's causing this, that we keep getting here to this difficult place where you're being judged by others, and you're constantly being come out? Right? truth and love? And here's the deal friends. If you don't love, you shouldn't speak. You shouldn't pipe. You shouldn't text. If it's not in love. I mean, really? How dare we speak the truth to people that we don't love? How much have we seen that this last year where Greed has come up this selfish desire that I'm right. And I'm going to judge you without knowing the whole backstory, that I'm not going to do my homework to understand what you've dealt with. The way that people look at you. What your work situation is like, what your home situation is like. Because all they will hear when we do that, and speak truth, without love about how you're not good enough. But how you should get your stuff together is just judgment in law. And that's not what we saw Jesus do. Jesus never spoke truth to anyone that he didn't love. Because he loves all if we're gonna walk in the footsteps of Jesus, then we have to do that in love. If you can't love someone, and you don't feel affection for them, or empathy towards them, or care or concern, please don't be greedy to knock them down and make yourself feel better. And speak to them. He spoke strong, you know, one of the things would be like, Oh, well, Jesus, you know, he wasn't like, really just laying it out there.

Sometimes he just had to tell him what's up. And there's moments of passion. But it's always surrounded by care. There's a story of a rich, young ruler, who went to Jesus and said, You know, these are the commandments that I've been following the commandments, what do I have to do to get into the kingdom of God. And essentially, Jesus looked at him, this is that he loved him. And then he cared for him. And then he spoke truth, and says that your possessions, everything that you're actually working for, aren't what this life is all about that you can't take it with you that it's actually easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than it is for someone to get all of these things and think they're gonna take it into eternity. And the left sad, but it was truth. And it was in love because he said, This is what we need to do. And I'll walk alongside of you, James and john, we see this story where James and john, they've, the disciples have gone ahead and let people know where Jesus is coming in. So it's the hottest ticket, they're selling space out, right, arenas are sold out, or, you know, they're broadcasting on TV, that's what we're learning. Something sold out. So that is like the thing in town. And so he gets to some area in this place. And no one shows up. In James and john are angry. And this is what they say when the disciples when his disciples James and john saw that no one had shown up for Jesus. This is the truth. This is God. They said, Lord, do you want us to come in fire to come down from heaven and consume them? What is happening? Right? these are guys that are like followers of Jesus. They have watched what he's done. And now all of a sudden, they're like, let's bring the thunder right. Let's bring fire and kill them all like what happened to these people? They have Learn what love looks like in action through Jesus, right? And suddenly get there. So I will tell you this a little grace for you. We're not all perfect. We're following Jesus, right? We're figuring it out. And they're figuring out and they say something absurd and not obnoxious. Let's come in fire to come down from heaven and consume them. Because this is the truth. But he turned and rebuked them, and said, You're not getting it. You don't know what spirit you are of, for the Son of Man has not come to destroy the lives of human beings. But to save them. Then they went on to another village, check this out, the Son of Man has not come to destroy the lives of human beings, but to save them. Friends, how many lives are we destroying, because of our intense, selfish desire to judge someone else to be right, which makes distance from them in you, and ultimately, from God, because you are an ambassador of hope. You are an ambassador of love. You are a child of God. And so that's why we got to check our emotions, of greed, but they sit there and they say, but we've got the truth. We've got something to say we have feelings about this is the way we're supposed to be.

And this is the way we're supposed to act. And we wonder why people say, watch out for those Christians. Watch out for those like people who do the church thing. I don't do church. I ain't gonna do church. Why? Because those people are ruthless. They are ruthless. Be Why? Because they will tell you the truth, you will walk into that place and they will strip you down naked and say, You're worse than me. Thank God, you showed up. Because now I feel better. Because I can just see the stuff on you. I'm going to be swift to judge movie, right? And what I do I have an intense desire for power, or to be better, right, that emotion. That's so gross that comes out of us need to wrap this up? I want to I wanted to say that the put greed in this place. So it's not the boss of you. We must let go of condemnation. here's the here's the deal. Friends, our hearts condemn us. And so we project. Our hearts condemn us. Many of you do this. I do the same thing. When we, when we sit there, and we just go over the sins or the issues of our past that are condemning us. Where we're like, what did I do? I can't believe I said that. I can't believe I acted like that. I can't believe I thought like that. Right. And so we're condemned and we're constantly condemning ourselves. Now, side note, we'll talk about this in a second. There's no more condemnation. So we need to stop that. But when we're doing that, that causes us to project on other people. Because I feel perpetually guilty for my air and my wrong in my sin. I'm now going to find someone who I perceive to be worse than me. This is what we do because of my own condemnation. The greediness of me says, I have this intense, selfish desire to have power over someone else over another person to make me do what? feel better. I will judge them privately, internally, internally publicly, and I'll do that because it will make me it will make you feel better. You must let go of condemnation towards other and start accepting the condemnation in your own heart to have grace and go color a little bit. Get a hold of that emotion that's welling up in you. That'll do damage to others.

So they continue to ask him he stood up from doodling and he said to them what him but him Who's without sin? Be the first to throw the stone at her. It says in first, john, if our hearts condemn us, we know that God is greater than our hearts. And he knows everything. If you feel your condemnation instead of hurting and throwing it on other people, God is greater than that he knows that give it back to him. Because friends, he's already taken it. He knows everything that you've done. So we see him his story how Jesus then stood up, and he said to her, Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you? She said, No one, or no one Lord. And Jesus said, neither do I condemn you. Go. here's the kicker. And from now on, thin, no more. Change, shift. let Jesus be a bigger boss of you, a better boss of you. Romans, a, the read of Romans, Paul, who was so swift to judge. He was all about being right, in condemning other people. And what he felt like was on behalf of God. You see, Paul used to be saw, and he was actually like a slayer of Christians and this movement of the way because he felt like he was the one that was coming alongside of God, and he was swift to judge what was going on. He was the right one, he understood he knew what God wanted, and what was going on, right. And so therefore, he condemned and actually killed and moved along and did this. Then later, Paul met Jesus. And it changed everything. And so this broken, messed up guy learned what it looks like, to not experience swift judgment, to not be held accountable for his condemnation, because Jesus had died and rose again, and he writes this beautifully. In Romans eight. There is there for now, that because of Jesus's death, and specifically His resurrection, his blood that was shed on the cross for you, there is there for because of that, now, like right now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. So for those of you who are hanging on to those different emotions, for those of you who are feeling condemned right now and overwhelmed, there is therefore now grace, there is therefore now mercy. There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Believe it friends, you've got a better boss, you've got a better boss, and Jesus.

So maybe you're here with us today. And you've never experienced what it looks like to not be condemned for your eternity. I'm not here to judge you. I'm not here to be right, because we've discovered who Jesus is. Like I said, like we experienced in communion as a community, He shed His blood for you, he sacrificed his body for you. And just a little bit after we respond on worship, you're gonna have an opportunity for a next step of what it looks like to experience, no condemnation. For those who are in Christ Jesus. Real quick, pop out your phones, you can take a picture of this, here's kind of your next step and some conversations to have. You can ask Where is there a place that you're commonly swift to judge? Be real right here? Where's there a place that you are commonly swift to judge other people or things or situations? What friends have you lost because of your need to be right? That you need to make that right. Who can you share your condemnation with? But what does that even mean? What's your story? Once you sit down with someone and say, this is this is my story. This is my testimony. This is who Jesus says in my life, why I have hope. Why I understand real love. Why understand grace, in a way that I've never understood it before. Stand with somebody this week. For now, friends, I just want to pray as we prepare our hearts as we walk in and respond to who God is, as our king. As a provider of peace is the boss of our lives. God, we love you, we thank you for your sacrifice for your care your love, for the way that you teach us just to take a deep breath. God in this moment, maybe we'd be quick to listen to your voice and slow to speak. Now reply but just what would you have for us, God and take away the anger and the condemnation and the hurt that we have right now. That's how we would receive that. We love you. We love you. I love you. I love you.

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